Parenting

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When it comes to parenting, nobody is born knowing how to be a good parent. It could be difficult to apply these skills and be appreciated by your children. It is a challenge to balance both being a good friend for your child and applying discipline and consequences when he or she makes poor decisions.

Respect

Teach your kids to respect themselves and others with words, but also set an example for them. Good communication and coping skills are important to instill in our kids. Help them handle their anger or frustration in ways that are not verbally or physically abusive to others.

Responsibility

Tell your child clearly what is expected from him or her. As a parent, you need to set appropriate limits for your kids, even when they protest.

Dealing with peer pressure

Learn your child's personality. Be aware of where they are, who their friends are, who is in charge, and what time they will be back. Ask about what kind of activities they do and verify them.

Mentor your child

Talk to your children often about what they think and feel about family, school, drugs, sex, money, and safety. Listen to them and communicate openly. Teach your children to know what to do in certain dangerous situations. You also need to have a conversation about their dreams, goals, and passions. Encourage and help them to pursue their dreams, even if they are not the ones that you had in mind for their future.

Lying, Stealing & Cheating

Set a good example at home. Teach your kids to apologize for their behavior and how having a police record will impact their life. Express love and affection, but be consistent applying consequences. Be clear about respect for others and their belongings. When children lie, cheat or steal regularly it means that they could be having serious problems such as: peer pressure; lack of supervision; drug involvement; physical, emotional or sexual abuse; lack of money; or the divorce or separation of their parents.

The rules in childhood

Be consistent. If you promise rewards for good behaviors or consequences for bad choices, make sure you will deliver it every time. Do not promise anything you are not going to do, otherwise expect the same from your child. Find creative ways to praise good behaviors.

Communicating with kids

Children need unconditional love from somebody consistent in their life: mom, dad, uncle, cousin, mentor - an adult they can trust and learn from. A secure foundation gives kids roots and stability.

Pediatric health

Obesity is a huge problem in children today. Make sure your child eats a healthy diet: protein, fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and dairy products. Watch carefully for small portions. Your child's brain is growing and needs a balanced nutrition. Encourage and join your kid in eating healthy and staying active - this is the key for success.

Pay Special Attention

Avoid being late to school

  • During their early years your child needs to get 10-11 hours of sleep per night.
  • Talk to your child and ask if there is a reason he or she does not want to get up and go to school.
  • Reward them with a small incentive when they are ready on time.
  • A morning shower may help to wake up and feel refreshed.
  • Be consistent. Make it clear that school is not a choice, but the law.

Domestic violence and your child

  • Let your child know they are not in danger anymore and are safe.
  • Listen, reassure, and be open to communicate with your child.
  • Reach out to a school therapist, counselor, or/and expert for professional help.

Help your child to stop being bullied

  • Contact the school staff and make them aware of the situation.
  • Help your child gain self-control: avoid certain individuals and situations.
  • Enlarge their social circle; make positive friends.

Angry outbursts

  • Explain to your child that yelling and screaming is not the correct way to express their frustrations and disagreements.
  • Next time your child expresses themselves with angry outbursts give them a 10 minute time out in their room.
  • Reward your child when you notice his or her efforts to control their temper or correct their behavior.

Social media

  • Make your child aware that you are watching the activity in his or her social media.
  • Set consequences for inappropriate behaviors and follow through.
  • Help your child know the rules and privileges of using social communications.
  • Set a time limit for usage of electronic devices.
  • Maintain all passwords and user names for your child's social media activities.

Missing classes and smoking marijuana

  • Learn your child's rate of usage by ordering a drug test. Drug prevention education, therapy, or treatment will be needed based on the results.
  • Give consequences for missing school such as taking away their cell phone, computer devices and video games. An opportunity to earn these privileges will be given back as they return to school and no skipping class is reported.
  • Get help from a professional in drug counseling.
  • For questions regarding the Juvenile Justice System contact Sara Hoyle, Juvenile Justice Director at shoyle@lancaster.ne.gov or 402-441-8495.

Resources

Family Service Association

501 South 7th Street
402-441-7949

Family Service Association is a Lincoln organization dedicated to offering quality programs and services to help people make their family stronger. Many different parenting classes are offered through Family Service Association:

  • Successful Parenting which covers child development, child discipline, styles of parenting, communication in the family, and safety.
  • Building Tomorrow
  • CPR/First Aid
  • Child Care Food Program
The Mediation Center

610 J Street, Suite #100
402-441-5740

Changing Paths with Children is designed for families with children who are experiencing divorce or custody issues.

Lutheran Family Services

2201 S 17th Street
402-441-7940

Parenting classes are offered in English and Spanish.

Stepping Stones for Families

4600 Valley Road
402-488-6511

UNL - Lancaster County Extension

444 Cherrycreek Road
402-441-7180